Parents looking for effective therapy methods to help a struggling young teen girl can learn about how we treat Power and Control issues at our therapeutic boarding school in TX. We enroll girls (ages 12-17 years) year-round, but we have a limited number of placements. Call for more information: (512) 545-2226.
Thrive Girls Ranch and Home understands that parents want to send young teen girl to a safe, monitored environment where she receives personal care, and individual therapies that help heal emotional and mental disorders–whether brought on by trauma, foster care, adoption or family genetics.
And while the young teen girl enrolls in our therapeutic boarding school for counseling, treatment, and improving her academics, and life skills, Thrive Girls Home also helps students struggling with power and control issues improve their mental and physical health.
Power and Control?
“Children who struggle with power and control issues manifest this struggle in a variety of ways. Here are just a few:” 1
Ignoring a direct instruction or command
Completing tasks half-way
Using the “silent treatment”
Pushing a limit (for example: girl is told to stop throwing the ball in the house, throws it one more time and then stops)
Refusing to eat what is placed before her
Lashing out with anger when reprimanded
Refusing to apologize
“A child with power and control issues only feels worthwhile when she is dominating those around him. She achieves this domination by getting adults to do what she wants or by only doing what she wants to do. She is likely experiencing deep-seated insecurities which are masked by these power plays.” 1
Another therapist shares, “In my experience, this behavior came about for one or more of these reasons: “ 2
1) Kids with underdeveloped lower centers of the brain often experience a lot of failure when others are leading. That’s because those in control usually have no awareness of how to build into the structure (i.e. make subtle modifications) so that such kids can then easily comply and experience success.
So to avoid that dreaded sense of failure, some kids compensate by seizing control of the situation. They’ll insist on doing it “their way.” But their way also works best for their brain, and now makes it impossible to fail by not doing a task as others expect.
2) Kids take control because others (inadvertently) reinforce this distorted sense of power by giving a lot of attention to the negative behavior. Here, the child’s brain may actually register holding the whole family hostage (by refusing to do whatever, and thereby delaying everyone) as giving her a distorted sense of importance. It’s even better if family members become upset. Now she’s even controlling how they act! She’s center-stage as she proves that, again and again, she can turn a whole house upside down. And every time she’s allowed to do that, she further entrenches a brain map that reinforces she’s the boss.
3) Kids take control when they don’t trust those in charge to lead. If that’s so, then a key question to ponder is . . . how did those kids lose that trust in the first place?
Some variables that affect trust are: 1) As parents, we second-guess many of our decision; 2) We’re inconsistent with how we respond; 3) We focus more on the negative, without honoring the present gifts our child has to share; 4) We don’t regularly build into the structure to make it easy to comply.”2
How Your Teen Girl Can Change and Thrive
Thrive Girls Ranch and Home offers life transformation to girls who struggle with life-controlling and self-destructive behaviors or attitudes like Power & Control issues. We provide therapeutic counseling to each individual girl, plus daily learning experiences and activities that nurture a true change of heart–and help her thrive in life. We desire to see every girl discover her God-given potential, and live out the core values of integrity, compassion, community, vision, stewardship, servanthood, and faith in Jesus Christ.
Teen girls enrolled at Thrive receive fully accredited middle and high school curriculum through Alpha Omega Academy. We also offer extensive academic recovery options, and help her prepare to transition into a normal, healthy lifestyle in college, ministry or the workforce. And because we highly value family restoration, parents can visit their girl once a month, and receive good insight on improving family relationships.
Need help with your teen girl who shows signs of power & control issues? Call our therapeutic all-girls boarding school now. (512) 545-2226. We look forward to speaking with you.
Thrive Girls Ranch & Home near Austin, TX
Sources:
https://www.cornerstonesforparents.com/controlling-behavior
http://www.thecortexparent.com/kids-with-control-issues/
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